The Challenge of Playing 2 Games

 

Sadly, the pressure to succeed can be overwhelming for many young athletes during their basketball journey. They must navigate the demands of school, practice, and games while striving to stay mentally focused through adversity on and off the court. Often, this pressure creates the sense of playing two games: the one on the court and the one to meet their parents' expectations—an incredibly challenging and taxing experience.

For athletes dedicated to becoming their best selves as players and individuals, juggling these conflicting pressures can lead to frustration, anxiety, and even mental burnout. Athletes constantly trying to please their parents may struggle to relax and truly enjoy the game. This tension can heighten the likelihood of mistakes, amplifying their pressure and anxiety during performance.

Parents play a pivotal role in shaping their child's athletic experience. It is crucial to understand how their actions and words affect their child's performance. Be an energy giver, not an energy vampire—grant them the freedom to focus and compete. If the goal is your child's success, let them play their game, trust the system they are in, and follow the coach's direction. Avoid adding pressure; instead, celebrate their growth, support their skill development, and enjoy the journey with them.

Remember, athletes are human beings experiencing a whirlwind of emotions during games. Amid the chaos, they need to know that at the very least, you are their advocate and a source of positivity, regardless of the outcome or their performance. To help them reach their full potential, create a supportive environment where they feel safe and do not have to play two games.

Tips for Parents Supporting Young Athletes:

1.   Be supportive and encouraging: Let your child know you believe in them and are their biggest cheerleader, on and off the court.

2.   Focus on the process, not the outcome: Rewards come after the work. Help your child cultivate a love for the game and a passion for improvement—keys to growth.

3.   Avoid comparisons: Comparison is the thief of joy. Never make your athlete feel inadequate in any way.

4.   Set realistic expectations: Encourage your child to shine in their role, whatever it may be, contributing to the team's success.

5.   Be patient: Developing skills takes time. You must not get discouraged—success requires perseverance.